The family tree is ever changing. Each family is their own tree. And, we are all part of that one tree but each branch has its own unique features. It is only now that I am understanding to let go of the family I once knew as I branched out and made my own extension of that family.
I was hanging on to the other branch in a hope of still feeling united but as I have grown stronger I understand that I am not alone on this new adventure, and while I still need to reach out to the other branches from time to time I have created my new portion of the tree.
I feel as though I have actually grown direct from the roots into a whole new tree. Attached to the original but growing separately and in a different direction.
At first I felt lonely
but as I grow stronger I understand that I am actually healthier and stronger than I ever was connected to the original roots. When you grow stronger you are able to rise above and find your own sunlight and not be shadowed by the others.
My children are growing beautifully and my husband has a never ending love for me and our family. It has only taken me eight years to understand I am stronger away from the family I once knew.
I have little room in my life for judgement and criticism. Love and laughter are life. If you are too busy judging others you have no room to love. What kind of life is that? Constructive criticism is great, it helps shape you. It shapes you without pulling you down.
When others put you down they are already beneath you.
Over the last six months to a year I have learned a lot about the narcissistic people who were once in my life.
I am no longer allowing these people to control me. I am finally letting go and standing on my own.
I can’t imagine how sad it is to go through life never being content with being yourself. I can’t imagine never really loving others. I can’t imagine not loving yourself. Accepting your own flaws, and the flaws of others. No one is perfect. Perfection is an illusion.
Be true to yourself and love you for you. Under the next full moon absorb the energy and take in the strength to move forward. Grant yourself permission to not always be available to others. Grant yourself permission to draw boundaries. You owe it to yourself.
Life is too precious to be wasted on negativity. Don’t let the world today fool you to think life is meant to be miserable. Embrace it. Love it. Don’t take anything you have for granted.
Be yourself and shine. No body cares. But chu. -Rinko Lee